1. Start with Knowing Yourself

Buying your first adult toy isn’t about following a trend—it’s about understanding your body and preferences. Everyone experiences pleasure differently, and what feels incredible for one person might feel “meh” for another.

Before shopping, ask yourself: What sensations do I already enjoy?

Here’s a quick guide:

• Clitoral stimulation

  • The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings

  • Stimulation feels sharp, focused, and often leads to faster orgasms

  • Many beginners start here because it’s non-intimidating

• Internal stimulation

  • The G-spot is a spongy area a few inches inside the vaginal wall. (around 5 cm inside the vagina, on the side that faces your belly button—not the back toward your spine)

  • The sensation is deeper and builds slowly

  • Can lead to powerful, full-body orgasms

  • Some people find it very responsive, while others don’t notice much sensation there at all

• Combination play

  • Blends clitoral and internal stimulation.

  • External play provides quick peaks, while internal adds sustained depth.

Understanding what excites you most (or what you’d like to explore) will give you a clear starting point.

2. The Main Types of Toys

The market may seem overwhelming, but most beginner-friendly toys fall into three main categories. Within each, you’ll find different designs that create unique experiences.

External Toys (Clitoral Focus)

Perfect for anyone new to toys.

Examples:

• Bullet vibrators: Small, discreet, single-function.

• Suction toys: Mimic oral sex with pulsing airwaves.

• Palm-sized massagers: Stronger motors, multiple settings.

Why they work for beginners: Easy to control, affordable, and non-intimidating.

Internal Toys (G-Spot or Vaginal Focus)

Designed for penetration and deeper pleasure.

Examples:

• Classic vibrators: Straight shafts, smooth or textured.

• G-spot & A-spot vibrators: Curved tips to hit the right spot.

• Dildos: Non-vibrating, often made of silicone, glass, or steel.

Why you’d try them: If penetration feels good, these toys add depth fingers or partners sometimes can’t.

Dual/Blended Toys (Inside + Outside)

For exploring both sensations at once.

Examples:

• Rabbit vibrators: Simultaneously stimulate clitoris + G-spot.

• Hybrid suction + penetration: Combine air-pulse with vibration.

• Flexible wands: Can be angled for blended play.

Why they’re exciting: A “two-in-one” experience, though they can feel intense at first.

 On Touchiee, these three categories are further refined with tags like: suction, rotation, thrusting, vibration, tongue-like flicking. This helps you shop by sensation, not just shape.

3. What to Consider When Choosing

Your first toy should feel like it belongs to you—comfortable, safe, and aligned with your desires. Pay attention to these factors:

🌊Stimulation Style & Intensity

• Multiple speeds and vibration patterns?

• Rumbly vs buzzy vibrations (rumbly usually feels more satisfying).

• Gentle suction or strong pulses?

📏Shape, Size & Portability

• Shape: Smooth vs textured ridges.

• Size:

  • Large = filling but intimidating.
  • Small = beginner-friendly but sometimes less intense.

• Discreetness: Lipstick-style or roller-shaped toys blend in.

• Portability: Lightweight and USB-rechargeable toys are great for travel.

🔊Noise Level & Performance

• Louder motors = stronger vibrations, but less private.

• Premium toys balance quiet operation with strong performance.

🔋 Power Source & Battery Life

• Rechargeable: Eco-friendly, convenient.

• Battery-operated: Cheaper upfront, but replacing batteries adds up.

🧼Waterproof & Cleaning

• Waterproof toys = easier cleaning and shower play.

• Always wash before and after use with warm water + mild soap or toy cleaner.

🛡️Material & Safety

High-quality toys are usually made of silicone. Within that, you’ll see differences: medical-grade silicone, food-grade silicone, and different firmness. 

But here's something you need to notice:

⚠️Silicone grade (medical vs food-grade) doesn’t necessarily indicate how soft or firm a toy will feel

⚠️Thickness ≠ Softness/Firmness

Thickness is how much silicone lies between your body and the inner core or motor.

While Softness/hardness is how cushion-like or firm that silicone feels when you press it.

⚠️ Lube tip: Always pair silicone toys with water-based lubricants. Silicone-based lube can damage silicone over time. Glass or steel toys work with both types.

🎮Features & Extras

Some toys come with added features like heating, voice interaction, or app-based control. While these sound exciting, it’s worth considering what really matters to you.

❗A note from Touchiee: Some modern toys include app-controlled or long-distance features. We don’t recommend using these, mainly due to privacy concerns. Data security isn’t always guaranteed, and sensitive information could pass through third-party servers. For peace of mind, we suggest choosing toys you can control directly (through built-in buttons or a safe local remote) rather than an app. 

4. Take Your Time Exploring

The first toy you buy doesn’t need to be perfect. Think of it as your starting point.

• Some people discover their favorite right away.

• Others try a few before finding what feels best.

• Both paths are completely normal.

Take your time, experiment, and listen to your body. Whether you start with a bullet, suction toy, or rabbit, remember: it’s not about finding the one, it’s about beginning a journey of pleasure and self-discovery